Christmas letter and fun

Merry Christmas to everyone!!

We skipped our letter last year, so let's just sum it up by saying, it was not a great one!!

This year we moved in July to a house with lower rent. I was contacted by a friend to do some data entry for his company, and I must have impressed someone, because that turned into a full time job for me!! It has been the hardest, but most rewarding thing I have done outside of the home. I generally work a 8-10 hour day, and come home and collapse!! I am not used to this hard working all day schedule. I really need to get into a better dinner routine, since we are not eating that great these days...

I have new empathy for single working parents. It is hard being a working mom. I think it would be a lot more doable with a maid and personal chef!! Until we can afford those, we will settle for training our kids. They are not loving the added responsibilities they have, but will appreciate the knowledge when they are older and have their own families.

We went to Utah right after we moved into our house, and had a great time with the Gresko side of the family. Nathan worked a lot of it, but was able to come up and spend 2 days with us. We were there for the 4^th of July weekend, and had a family reunion with all the in laws and cousins, minus Josh Crowther, who was still on a mission in Korea. We came home and did our best to unpack before getting into the school routine.

Colby is in 6^th grade, and is doing pretty well. He plays the piano, and surprises himself a lot at how far he has come. He turned 12 in September and was ordained a Deacon in our church. We are very proud of the awesome, and sensitive young man he is growing into. Rebekah is in 5^th grade, and turned 10 this year. She is officially taller than Colby, and loves to wear heels to rub it in! She is in orchestra, playing the violin; and plays the piano as well. That is one busy girl we have!! Between Achievement days, homework and instruments, she doesn't have much time. Then comes our Caleb. He was baptized this July, as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. We are very proud of him and the choice he made to join us as members of the church. He is now 8, and in 3^rd grade. What a character he is! He is still tiny, but has grown a little in the last little bit. He is just a funny, crazy, bouncy kid. He loves to show off and perform songs for us while jumping around the room. He cracks us all up. Then last but not least, comes Rachel. She turned 5 in June, and has always had such a strong and distinctive personality. She is usually happy, and has developed quite the sassy attitude since starting kindergarten. She is always up for snuggling, and comes to sit by or on our laps all the time. She is learning to read, and loves how the world is opening up around her with words, and notices phonograms everywhere. They are all growing up so fast!!

Nathan has had a hard time finding steady work since the Post Office cut our contract last August. He has had several jobs lasting from a few weeks, to several months. Nothing has panned out like we hoped it would, and we have been frustrated about what to do. After a lot of fasting and prayer, he has decided to completely switch fields, and become a high school science teacher. He is back in school for his Masters of Secondary Education. He is working weekend nights from 10pm-10am at a computer company monitoring their servers. He makes sure everything works right, or fixes problems as they arise. He is doing well, and being given full time hours at the start of the year. His program is supposed to last 13 months, so hopefully, by the time our next letter rolls around, he will be close to done!! It is hard work, but we are so proud of him for all the sacrifices he is making for us!!

Then, there's me. I have had a hard time this year. I spent the first few months of the year on the couch, trying to let my compressed and painful discs in my back heal. When that didn't do much, other than make me crazy, I sought out many other kinds of help. I have tried chiropractors, myopractors, acupuncturists, and doctors. Epidurals, trigger point injections, numbing creams and medicated patches. None of them provided much lasting relief. I have been pretty discouraged, but try to trust in my faith in Heavenly Father, that in time, I will be free of pain and able to be the mom and wife I want to be. I work at Rehab AZ, where I get physical therapy and massage and other treatments to get me through the day. The people I work with have saved me on more than one occasion. I am very blessed to be where I am, and I count my blessings every day for my family and friends who help me and my family.

holy moly, it's April???

Ok, I am appalled that I haven't posted on here in so long. I guess I've been busy!! I don't really have any pictures to post, since I didn't have my iphone for a few months there, and my camera is a piece of poo. I now have my phone back, and can take random pics again. It is very nice!! Let's see, how do I sum up so many months?? I guess I will start where I left off. Nathan worked for his dad, who bid on our postal contract in aug, right when he lost it. He got the run until February. Nathan worked for him, doing the same job getting less pay. It was super. Then in March, we were officially unemployed.
 I found a sweet gig with a car service. They wanted someone who could work from home, and answer the phone when it rang, but not sit in an office bored all day. It is a perfect fit for me and my situation. I answer the phone and answer questions most of the time, but occasionally I will book rides, which I get a commission off of. I have been getting a lot more hours than I originally thought, so I am happy with it. Nathan has been applying, interviewing, and waiting. He tried working for a railroad contractor up north, but when the 6-8 hour days turned into 16 hour days, with the same pay, it was not worth it. He could make better than that, and not be out of town for weeks at a time!! He is now looking at networking jobs, so if anyone has any leads, let me know!!
The latest with me, is that I finally had an mri done, and found that I have 3 compressed discs in my thoracic spine. I have been getting trigger point injections, but getting no relief once the numbing wears off. I finally gave up, and scheduled an epidural. I was fully aware during the whole procedure, which I did not enjoy much. I experienced the most excruciating pain of my life for that entire day, and into the next. I barely moved at all, was very disappointed, and sure I would just never feel better. Thankfully, a few days later, I started to get some relief. Then, just when I started feeling better, I realized my throat had been hurting for several days, and went to urgent care after Rebekah was told she had strep throat. Sure enough, I did too!! I went on antibiotics, and felt better on Sunday. I went to church last week and stayed for all 3 meetings, for the first time in months. It was very nice to get to experience meetings with Nathan again!!
I am improving gradually, going to physical therapy once a week, and getting chiro and massage when I can fit it in. It is crazy busy, but I guess that is how I like it!! Soon, the kids will be out of school for the summer, and then, all 4 of my babies will be in school all day. I may just lay down for a week!! :)

 colby in the battle of books

 rebekah ready for church

 caleb being caleb

 kids watching the hobbit with dad

 abby and rachel taking a swimsuit bath

 the night before daddy left for what we thought was a month

 watching the hobbit

 snuggling Daddy all together

 fearless Rachel trying to figure out how to go down backwards!!

 Nathan's new love- ROSES

rachel in her favorite dress

cabin and webelos

we went to the cabin with some great friends, and here is caleb saying he is freezing!!

here i am with my great friend marie after riding quads through the mud puddles and all over the fields!!

here is colby and his almost twin, diego. they were born on the same day. i am still mad at his mother for that!! She wasn't due for another 2 weeks. 

Nathan took Colby to his first asu game, and the poor kid got a nasty migraine. these are becoming almost a daily occurrence, poor boy!!

colby got his webelos award, and i got to paint his face. it was fun!!

the finished product, a blue w from ear to ear, yellow triangles, and red stripes. 

we went to the pool a lot this summer, and waited for the tubes to get on the lazy river several different times. here is nathan with rachel, our green goggled girl!!

 Rachel in an adorable dress I got her at a stake clothing exchange

could she be any cuter??

kids on the first day of school getting out to get on the bus

while camping, we had to wash a blanket and jammies that rachel had an accident in. this was our cool little washing machine!!

here i am washing clothes!!

it was fun spinning it around

rachel had so much fun picking flowers in the fields

here we are caravanning in the field, 2 prowlers followed by 2 quads. 

nathan having a blast zooming around on his quad, he thoroughly enjoyed splashing through the puddles, and it was fun watching the giant mud wave come crashing on him!!

Dad and his girls after splashing through the puddles. 

summer news

We moved!! For those of you that didn't know, we moved into our new house on Memorial Day, which was just over 2 weeks ago. It is off of Crismon and Guadalupe, much closer to work for Nathan. It is a perfect little house for us, with just the right sized rooms and layout. The only problem is the lack of storage space. The girls bedroom is huge, so I naturally assumed it would have the toys in it, and everything would be lovely. When we hastily came looking through the house, I didn't realize that the closet in there was teeny tiny!! It barely holds the girls clothes and a few boxes of too big clothes for rachel!! The boys room is tiny, with their beds being up against each other in a t shape. There is no room for anything else in there. The dressers take up the rest of the room! They have a good sized closet, and have some toy buckets in there and under their beds, but the telescope takes up half the closet. Needless to say, there are toys all over the living room most of the time. Cleaning up means shoving everything in one of the 3 small laundry baskets and pushing them in a corner. We will figure it out eventually. There are still several boxes of toys in the garage I haven't even brought in, and hope to keep it that way. If I can hold the kids off for the summer, once they are all in school, I can slowly get rid of them without them even knowing!! I cannot stand to live in a house with no pictures up, so after unpacking, that is the first thing I do. I think I have all the pictures up now, and it feels much more homey. Like we actually live here!!

The kids are not in any summer programs, and have no structure at all. They spend the day alternately playing computer or wii games, and playing crazy imaginative games with the toys we do have in the house. Caleb and Rachel play quite well together, and Colby and Rebekah have friends next door they play with. Overall, everyone seems happy. Colby has been going to scouts, and Rebekah to achievement days, so they are included in the activities and making more friends.

Our newest news is that Colby got glasses yesterday!! He has been getting headaches for a year or so now, and when I took him in at the beginning, he didn't need glasses. When I took him in last week, he most definitely did!! He picked out the ones he liked, which happened to be the second pair he tried on. Boys. They came in yesterday, and he is very happy to be able to see clearly!! He keeps lifting them up and saying, can't see, then back down, and can. He is funny. He has adjusted to them with no problem, and everyone seems happy with our new, ultra cool, nerdy boy!! :) He has a few friends that have had glasses for a while, and he has joined the club now. They seem excited to have another friend in glasses.

Also, I took the kids all in for their dental cleaning and x-rays. They all need work done!! Rachel has 2 cavities to fill, Caleb a tooth to pull and put a spacer in, Rebekah a tooth to put a crown on that has chipped, and another to seal, and Colby one to pull and another to fill. Colby and Rebekah are going to the orthodontist next week to see about the major crowding and funny teeth, and see if they need braces. Yay for them!!

I am working hard toward getting my life license, and being able to earn commissions off of the work I am doing. I am working with Primerica, and really believe in the principles we teach about getting the financial house in order and being properly protected, debt free, and financially independent. We had a kick off meeting last night for a new debt program we are implementing, and how much money it could save clients. I am super excited to get out there and help people who are struggling like we are.

So, that is our life this week. Sorry to bore you with so much information!!

new developments

Oh man, have we had some crazy recent developments in our lives. Our latest one has been to go into my first doctor appointment and hope to listen to the baby's heartbeat, only to find out that there wasn't one. They brought in the portable ultrasound machine, and showed me the gestational sac. I asked the nurse if she wasn't seeing anything in it, or if I was losing it. She confirmed my fears, and said she wasn't seeing anything either. It either meant I was wrong in my dates, or the pregnancy was not going to continue. I knew I wasn't wrong in my dates, I was 11 weeks when I went in. For her to say the size was about 8 weeks, was very wrong. They left me sitting in the room until the ultrasound tech was free, and brought me in there for an official ultrasound to check the viability of the pregnancy. I layed down on the table and waited for the picture to come up on the screen. What I saw, jolted me to the core. Nothing. There was nothing growing in the sac. There was a yolk sac, or something like that, that showed that the egg was fertilized and attached, but stopped growing at 6 weeks. It was bizarre to me though, I had no idea anything was wrong. I was feeling incredibly nauseated for the last 6 weeks, and was super tired and all the other pregnancy symptoms. I was even starting to show!! For some reason, my body kept growing and expanding like there was a baby in there, when there wasn't. It is really hard. I fully expected to get bigger and more miserable throughout the summer, and barely make it through Halloween, and have a baby sometime in November.
We were really scared and trying to figure out how we were going to care for another little person in our family, but we were excited to try. We were looking at houses and trying to decided based on where we would put the baby. This has changed things dramatically. It was hard to tell the kids that they wouldn't be having a new brother or sister. Rachel is the only one that seems ok with it. She says, now that you are not having a baby, you can still hold me! I have been trying to weigh the options and decided to have a d and c, versus taking the pills that would cause it to happen naturally. So I did that today, and slept for 4 hours after I got home. I actually feel pretty good now, and am just waiting till bedtime. I have restrictions on what I can do and lift, so I can't pack anymore today. I did what I could before the procedure, and have to wait till tomorrow to do anymore.
On a different note, we found out that we didn't get the house we wanted on Lindsay and Southern. We searched for the last week and a half, and couldn't find something that was quite right. Finally, yesterday we found it!! It is on Crismon and Guadalupe, and will save us so much on rent, gas to work and back, utilities being in a smaller house. We are excited, and get to move in next Friday!! Finally, something is going our way. Now we just have to figure out what to do about schools for the kids, and what ward we will be in, and all of that. Yay for us!!

life as we know it

It has been a crazy busy and fun time in our lives. I started working with a company called Primerica, and actually got my first bonus Friday!! Things are going well, but I have definitely added to the stress level in my life. I finish school this week, just a final in one class, and 2 projects in the other. Thank the heavens, I will have my associates degree in general studies!! It has been a long road, taking me 12 years of off and on again schooling, but I did it!!
 I am now just over 10 weeks pregnant, and feeling it already. I have been shaking pretty much since I got pregnant, and can't figure out why. It doesn't matter what or when I eat, I still shake! It's frustrating when I am trying to do something small and meticulous, like painting my toenails or something. I cut myself shaving almost every time. Lame!!
 On another subject, I finished my semester with the EVMCO, and decided I needed to take some time off to be pregnant and have this baby. I am due the week of the Christmas concert, and figured that would be a lot of work and wasted time if I couldn't be in the concert!! It was a hard decision, and it still breaks my heart, but I know it is right for us right now.
We were going through finances last week, and decided we really need to cut costs, especially with a new baby coming along. We are downsizing, and moving to a smaller house with a lower payment. We have put in an application for one on Higley and Southern, and really hope we get it! It is as close to perfect as we can get right now, and is even close to one of my best friends and her family!! We will be in the same ward and our kids will go to the same school. It is gonna be fun.
So now, my life consists of trying to organize and pack, (I don't want to bring crud we don't need), a little bit at a time. I got through 4 boxes today, and I couldn't even stand up, I had no energy, and my heart was racing. I think I have to take it slow, this baby is taking all that I have and more!! I am super stressed with getting the house packed and cleaned in the 3 weeks we are hoping to have until we can get into our new house. In order to get our security deposit back, we need to do a little bit of work on a few areas, and a whole lot of deep cleaning. 4 crazy kids wreak havoc on a house!!
I know we are doing the right thing for our family, but it is hard to leave our friends and ward, which we have really come to love and value!! But, when you start getting comfortable, that's when you need to shake things up, right? It seems to always be that way for us. We have moved 8 times in our 12 years of marriage, and it doesn't look like we are done yet!!

so behind!!!

holy moly, i didn't realize how long it had been since i had updated my blog, or even read other people's!! having facebook and email on my phone limits what i need to do on the computer. i really only get on it to do schoolwork and balance my checkbook. sorry guys, i am a slacker! so for those who don't read facebook or see me a lot, i am PREGNANT!!! if you are shocked, imagine how i felt!! it just couldn't be more ironic, since nathan was on track to do something permanent to prevent future "accidents". i had had problems with every form of birth control over the last few years, so we finally decided we were done with it all. the day before he was scheduled, i was talking to a friend, and realized i couldn't remember my last cycle. that is not good!! i kinda freaked out a little, but figured nothing could really be going on. i had to get a prescription, so i picked up a test while i was there. i came home, and ran upstairs to take the test. normally, i track so closely, that i am only a few weeks when i take a test, and it takes a while to creep across and get to the result. this time, it literally zoomed across, flashing a big dark plus sign!! i about died! this was not planned or expected. we have donated or sold everything needed for a pregnancy or baby. i have one box of a few maternity clothes that i was keeping to sell, since they were the cute ones (thank you heather!!), and that is all i have. i had lost the last few pounds over the last couple of months, so at least i have a few things that are bigger to wear. i was not sick for the first week, and very optimistic. sadly, hitting six weeks meant getting sick. not horribly, just enough to remind me to eat a lot, and not chocolate!! (which makes me so sad!! i love chocolate!!!) i am trying to figure out what to do now, since choir starts back up in august, and our concert is the week of my due date!! do i continue with choir, even though i will most likely have to drop? or do i drop now as a preventative measure? i am really torn. i love the choir, and the amazing music and people. but i was on bed rest with the last 2 pregnancies by 23 weeks. i don't want to jeopardize my health, or the baby's. also, i will be done with school in 3 weeks, finally getting my associates degree in general studies. it only took 12 years! :) well, that is our crazy life!!